Hopes, not hurts should shape your future. We all can find some area in our lives where we wish we had done things differently. What if? What if I had stayed in that relationship” What if I had taken my usual route to work rather than go the scenic route? Maybe I would have avoided the accident. What if I had finished college rather than getting married? WHAT IF? Let’s not play this game of what if! Every choice you made, every person that you met, and every challenge that you lived through has made you the person that you are today. I like who I am! I love my beautiful daughters; one conceived at age seventeen and another at age thirty-two. Do I wish I was still married to the husband I had at age seventeen? No I do not, but she would not be here if I had not met and married her father.
Some of us spend so much time looking back we cannot get a glimpse of our future. It’s okay to hope for something better in life, but do we have to hold onto our hurt in order to have hope? The future is full of whatever we choose to bring into our lives. What you focus on tends to appear in your life. We see what we seek. A lot of times our indecisiveness creates the very situation that we are trying to avoid. To make no decision is a decision in and of itself. We think just because we ignore something it will go away. No matter how much you hate the fact that you cannot make ends meet, hating it will not change it. Your energy should be focused on what you can realistically do at this moment to decrease the negative impact that your lack of income will have on your life. Even though life throws you a foul ball, that does not give you the right to step out of the game, especially if others are depending on you. We all would like to have a “Bail Out.” You need to be your own “Bail Out!”