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Hopes, not hurts should shape your future.  We all can find some area in our lives where we wish we had done things differently.  What if?  What if I had stayed in that relationship”  What if I had taken my usual route to work rather than go the scenic route?  Maybe I would have avoided the accident.  What if I had finished college rather than getting married?  WHAT IF?  Let’s not play this game of what if!  Every choice you made, every person that you met, and every challenge that you lived through has made you the person that you are today.  I like who I am!  I love my beautiful daughters; one conceived at age seventeen and another at age thirty-two.  Do I wish I was still married to the husband I had at age seventeen?  No I do not, but she would not be here if I had not met and married her father.

Some of us spend so much time looking back we cannot get a glimpse of our future.  It’s okay to hope for something better in life, but do we have to hold onto our hurt in order to have hope?  The future is full of whatever we choose to bring into our lives.  What you focus on tends to appear in your life.  We see what we seek.  A lot of times our indecisiveness creates the very situation that we are trying to avoid.  To make no decision is a decision in and of itself.  We think just because we ignore something it will go away.  No matter how much you hate the fact that you cannot make ends meet, hating it will not change it.  Your energy should be focused on what you can realistically do at this moment to decrease the negative impact that your lack of income will have on your life.  Even though life throws you a foul ball, that does not give you the right to step out of the game, especially if others are depending on you.  We all would like to have a “Bail Out.”  You need to be your own “Bail Out!”

 

When I was diagnosed with breast cancer in 1985, I promised God that I would share my story for as long as He allowed me to live.  I saw myself living pass the five year mark that the doctors said would remove my concerns about dying.  Now I truly wake up every day doing what I love, writing, traveling, and speaking in a way that encourages others to live beyond their wildest expectations. You will have it when you see yourself with it!

Your life should be a series of pivotal moments that remind you of your strength and endurance. In times of quiet and reflection  little things will pop up and put a smile on your face.  It can happen when you least expect it but also when you need it the most.  I left my comfortable life style in Richmond, Virginia and moved to Charlotte, North Carolina in 2009 with a brand new car that I had not made the first payment on, and a job offer, which ended two weeks later when I got sick. In spite of that, and becoming homeless two months afterwards, I still saw myself with a brighter future.  Although I didn’t have all the details I knew it was time to change my mind set in order to change my circumstances.   Fast forward to ten years later where I am currently living in Charleston, SC, retired, debt-free, working part-time at Chic-Fil-A as a hostess, along with my continued passion of writing, traveling and speaking.  As a hostess at Chic-Fil-A, I am given the wonderful opportunity to share my beautiful smile and my joy for serving others.  As an author and motivational speaker I am constantly writing, speaking, networking, blogging, creating content for my on-line business and organizing events and opportunities for others to share their passion.  You will have it when you see yourself with it!

 

He who hesitates is probably right!  We have so many thoughts during the day and most of them are fleeting.  Have you ever had the same thought over and over again but for some reason you couldn’t seem to act on it no matter how many times it showed up in your mind?  What is it that makes us hesitate?  Is it intuition or the spirit?  Do we somehow feel that a thought is not worthwhile unless it continues to circle around our brain?  Hesitation can be good at times, however some things require that right now moment.  For me I’m more comfortable acting on my thoughts when they simply won’t leave me alone.  It’s usually when I can’t get something out of my head that I tend to act.  However, there are some thoughts that I write down the minute I think them just in case I need to go back at a later date when I’m better prepared to tackle it.  And of course, some thoughts get thrown out completely even if they’re wrtten down.   I think writers always have pen and paper handy because they never know when the greatest thought may materialize that will make a miraculous difference in their world or someone else’s.

Every journey starts with the first step. No matter how much we try there is no way to get to the top without taking the first step and doing the necessary work required to take the second and third step.  How many times have you seen a friend or foe succeed in an area where you feel you are qualified, and you wonder how they got there so fast?  You start questioning your methods and motives.  You ask yourself what can I do differently to speed up the process.  Well, to be honest, there is nothing that you can do differently because the teacher will not show up until the student is ready.

If you have a Facebook account then you probably noticed over the years and heard people talking about how they keep changing their algorithms. Basically what they are referring to is a set of calculations Facebook uses to decide what content you see.  It all boils down to showing you posts that they think you will interact with through likes, comments, and shares, based on your previous actions on similar posts.  This was also done to cut down on posts that were negative or geared to a particular set of beliefs, which inflamed people’s sensibilities.  Unfortunately, life has no algorithms. What you see every day is going to hit your feed in the order that it happens.  There are no shortcuts or ways to adjust life to have what you want show up.  It would be nice if we could change the feed based on likes, comments, or shared experiences.  With an ever changing world it’s impossible to count on similar circumstances turning out the same as last time.  Even those people who share similar challenges with you don’t always act in the manner that you anticipate.  We are all fighting our individual battles although it’s hidden most of the time.  You get to choose what you post on Facebook, but not what shows up in real life.  Real life happens whether someone is scrolling or not, because life has no algorithms!

Destination is important but so is the ride.  Many of us go on vacation and never stop along the way to sightsee or take in the scenery.  Maybe that little country store has just what you need to spark a memory from childhood,  or the perfect gift for a loved one back home.  Perhaps the restaurant with the strange name has  home cooked meals the way grandma used to make them.  We have to realize that the journey is just as important as getting there.  Sometimes we get so concerned with getting to a certain point that we miss the journey.

It took me five years to get on television here in Charleston, South Carolina, but I enjoyed every step of the way.  There were so many times when I turned on the TV or saw others posting their shows on Facebook and wondered how did they get there.  What type of contact or inside scoop did they have?  I continued to praise them while staying in my zone and doing the work that God assigned to me.  I have always known that preparation comes before possibility and my time would come.  The joy of the journey is what makes the destination so sweet.  The fact that you worked hard to earn that vacation, to get to the top, to speak to that audience that you have wanted to reach.  All of those things are in God’s timing and not ours, so continue to be patient and wait your turn.

Life is like a journey.  It ‘s good to plan and strategize about where you want to go, but we must also leave room for sightseeing.  We must allow God to intervene when His plan is better than ours, and it always is.  Don’t be so rushed to get to your final destination that you miss the journey.  Remember, once time is lost we never get it back.

 

 

With God nothing is wasted. As we walk this journey here on earth it may sometimes seem like God is supplying us through a trickle-down effect, a drip, or an overflow. Although we would like to see the fruits of our labor sooner than later, there will be times when you think that your efforts are wasted. When it comes to the Kingdom of God remember that nothing is wasted. You may have put in the work over and over and nothing has shown up to validate your labor. Just because you don’t see it does not mean that it’s not happening. The teacher is silent while the test is being given. One day you will wake up and realize that something you prepared yourself for is now showing up at your doorstep. At the time when you put in the work you thought you were creating a different scenario for your life, but God took what you did and showed you a new way to use your talents and abilities.

Think about a water facet or an outside spicket for your water hose, that continually drips over a long period of time. I’ve had that happen with both of these. You may not feel that a tiny drip is making a different, but when you get your water bill that’s another story. In addition, that little drip from the outside water spicket could also be affecting the inside of the home in ways that you can’t see. Now let’s apply that same scenario to our daily lives. The good deed that you do today or the smile that you share with someone can go a long way. What seemed like a small effort on your part when you got up early to attend an event, or stayed late to accomplish a goal may take years before you see the results. As I grasp new ideas and create new adventures for myself in business and pleasure, every day I feel like I am opening up a new gift from God! So remember, with God nothing is wasted!

Sometimes you need to hear the silence.  We’ve all heard the statement, ‘silence is golden’ but how many of us truly seek out silence in our day to day life?  It can be hard to shut the brain down and listen to your own breathing.  There have been times where I would meditate until I no longer had a thought, and occasionally I nodded off.  And then there are other times when the silence speaks to me louder than the noises of the world.  Those are the times when I know without a shadow of a doubt that I’ve tapped into the voice of God.

We live in a world where we are encouraged to always be DOING.  God gave each of us twenty-four hours to use at our discretion, however He also threw in the night time as a time of rest.  Although the universe does not operate on a time clock, God gave time to man because He knew we needed organization and structure.  Don’t wait until it’s bedtime to create silence for your life.  Learn to put your body and your brain on mute as a way of reinvigorating your organs and your ability to be a gift to the world.  As I strive to be a better version of myself daily, I am constantly taking stock of how I live my life, whether it’s mentally, physically, emotionally, socially, spiritually or financially.  All these areas play a major part in the way I show up to the world.  I intend to be a good steward of all that God has entrusted to my care.  On the outside it may seem sometimes that my life is about fame and fortune, but deep down it’s all about changing the world one person at a time.  It is our job to use what God gave us to show gratitude for being on this earth as we honor Him.  For many of us that means, sometimes you need to hear the silence!

 

God is not trying to trip you up!  There may be stones in your path. Stones that trip and stones that trap.  Stones too big for you.  But, remember the goal of these stones is not to trip you up but to have you look forward with faith.  Some of your best accomplishments in life may come from your worst failures.  One man’s trash is another man’s treasure!  There are people in this world who would gladly trade places with you in a heartbeat.  Be careful how you murmur and complain about the things that show up to challenge and strengthen you.

This year for me has created the biggest growth spurt that I’ve ever had personally, financially, and spiritually based solely on the stones that I felt was put in front of me to trip me up. Because I decided to draw closer to God and surrender control, He showed me a person inside that I didn’t know existed.  I was like most people who love the Lord.  I thought my time and effort spent in praying, meditating, and studying was enough.  I was able to discern God’s voice and move about my life with confidence and structure.  But what I didn’t know was, deep down inside was a woman who was afraid to truly allow her spiritual side to be seen by too many folk.  In my writing and my speaking I chose my words carefully in order to not sound so “religious.”  When giving advice and ministering to others, most of the time I would preface my words with, “I’m not a religious person, but I’m spiritual.”  I used to think that statement would draw people in more quickly and excuse me from accountability to God for what I said or did.  Over this past year I’ve come to realize that authenticity is the key to good communication, whether it’s religious, spiritual, or neither.  I can honestly say that my financial, spiritual, and social growth this year has been because I stopped playing small and decided to give God all the credit for my life no matter what setting I found myself.  I didn’t just reserve God for Sunday; I carried Him with me wherever I went all week long.  I encourage you in this season of life, when we need God more than ever, to please consider the possibility that God is not trying to trip you up! Your stones are there to remind you to look down sometimes at the ones less fortunate than you.  It’s so easy to blindly walk through our lives with our heads in the air because all is well.  Take your stones today and build a fort of love that shows the world the real you and not your representative.

 

Your crisis will up level you!  So many of us don’t want the pain of the push but we want the baby! You cannot have one without the other.  The crisis you face today is the culmination of the curriculum that you needed to get through the course.  If you had quit in first grade then you would have never graduated from school.  If you had not pushed through the pain of birth, then you wouldn’t have seen the magic of your child being born.  It’s time to up level in all areas of your life.  Stop playing small so others will understand and accept you for the person they know.  I always say if you knew me yesterday but haven’t talked to me in weeks, then you don’t know who I am.  I am ever changing and I refuse to apologize for that.  God has me on a course of development and preparation for the many doors that are about to swing open.  As I prepare to step inside there will be things that cannot remain the same in my life, and that should be true with you as well.   There are many people who came with you that cannot go where God is taking you.  Don’t feel guilty about that.  There is a time and season for everything under the sun.  It’s your time now!  Every day I ask God for a closer walk with Him, a deeper understanding of my purpose and the ability to walk confidently in it.  I also ask for a word for me and a word for the world, and I close by asking for a quicker discernment of His voice and the quickness to respond to it.  So when I get the answers each day to those requests I may not look like who you think I am.  And that’s alright!

Why do you do what you do?  As I sat in my prayer closet the other day looking around at my quotes, affirmations, scriptures and photos, it dawned on me that none of those things represent my ‘why.’ Do you truly know your ‘why’?  Some call it their passion or their purpose.  Others say it’s their reason for being here on earth.  And some even consider it their reason for waking up in the morning.  Sitting in that closet on that particular day, I realized that being diagnosed with breast cancer in 1985 is my ‘why’.

When I share my life stories of triumph over the past thirty-three years, it is because I took what could have been a sad day and turned it into a miraculous moment of self-discovery and purpose. Yes, I am passionate about what I do as a motivational speaker and author, but it’s not my ‘why.’  Although I look forward to waking up every day and doing what I love, (Geri Speak), it is not my ‘why’ or my reason for being on this earth.  All of those things came as a result of breast cancer and they continue to be an offshoot that allows me to be the best version of myself.  God has gifted me as a writer and speaker in a way that nobody else does it.  I am not  better than any other speaker or writer, it simply means that I am the best at being Geri.  My life story cannot be told by anyone else and neither can yours!  So when you think about your ‘why’, make sure that you dig deeper than your family, your job, your passion, or your purpose.  Most likely you will find your ‘why’ in one of the scariest moments of your life.  There is no timeframe for when that will happen.  You may be age two or thirty-two.  Some never discover their ‘why’ at all.  It took me thirty years and I’m glad to be living the rest of life as my best life! Remember your ‘why’!